Listen or thy
tongue will make thee deaf.
-
Native American Proverb
If you can
see things from others point of view before sharing your own, a whole new world
will be opened for you. This habit is the key to communication is because
everyone’s deepest need is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and
valued for who they are – a unique, one-of-a-kind, individual.
There are 5
types of poor listening:
·
Spacing
out
·
Pretend
listening
·
Selective
listening
·
Word
listening
·
Self-centered
listening
Spacing out
is when someone is talking to us but we ignore them while we wander off to our
own little word.
Pretend
listening is when we aren’t paying much attention to the other person, but we
make pretend comments like “yeah,” “uh-huh,” “cool.” The other person will
often feel like they aren’t good enough to be heard or paid attention to.
Selective listening
is where we pay attention only to the parts that we want to hear. Since you’ll always
want to talk about what you want to talk about, instead of what the other
person wants to talk about, chances are you’ll never develop lasting
friendships.
Word
listening is when we actually pay attention to the words of someone, but not
the body language. If you focus on only the words, you won’t really get what
the person’s deeper emotions and feeling actually are.
Self- centered
listening is when we listen, but we see everything from our perspective. Instead
of standing in another persons shoes, we want to stand in our own.
But then
there is genuine listening. To do this you must listen with your eyes, hart,
and ears. Listening with just your ears isn’t enough, because only 7% of communication
is done with words. The rest comes from body language, and tone or feeling. To hear
what people are really saying, you need to listen to what they are not saying.
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